This week has been a real struggle… Financially. Well, if I’m being honest the past two years have been a struggle in that sense but this past month has really put my fiancé and I through the ringer.
They say that money can’t buy happiness and in my option that statement is true and false. First of all, I feel whoever wrote that statement has never truly struggled with money. But I understand to a certain degree where they were coming from. No, generally speaking money cannot buy you true love or the feeling of accomplishment when you complete something you have been working really hard for or the indescribable feeling (that I can only imagine) of holding your new born baby for the first time. But if we are being honest money does play a factor in all of those things. The falling in love probably didn’t happen after first sight. So getting there likely took at least a few dates, those of which are usually accompanied by money. Completing that goal likely took some kind of money for supplies, or training or whatever it may be. And we all know that having a baby certainly isn’t free… Either way, you get my point. Money does in fact help buy happiness. Think of it like football. Money is the team and happiness is winning the game. There is absolutely no way of winning or even competing in the game unless you have a team.
Money and I have never had a strong relationship. I grew up relatively poor. I mean I always had a roof over my head and somehow had something to eat, even if it was just a can of green beans…But the lack of money was always a conversation in my household and even to this day I have never been able to save a dime and have always lived paycheck to paycheck.
When your whole life revolves around money and you choose to do things only if you can afford them, you have an unhealthy relationship with money. So the question that I am asking myself now is how do I change this unhealthy relationship? If this money struggle has been a part of my life for 30 years…. Then I feel like it must have something to do with me, right? Currently the thoughts in my head say that I am poor. Always been poor. Money is always a struggle. I can never save money. I live paycheck to paycheck. What are rich people doing that I’m not doing? I can’t do that because I don’t have any money… On and on the poor girl self pity talk continues. This is essentially the same as being overweight and sitting on my ass and hating the way I look and saying I’m too fat or I am too ugly but never doing anything about it. We are what we think about. So I have decided to try something new. Instead of thinking “I am poor” I am going to reframe my thinking to “I am rich.” I am going to completely stop considering myself poor and focusing on the fact that I have no money and instead I am going to tell myself how rich I am. I am super rich in love and family and friends. Those are the things that truly matter. But I am also going to start inviting money into my life with open arms. I actually wrote a letter to money telling it that I am ready to start accepting it. I told money I am ready to be responsible and have a positive relationship with it. I know this sounds a bit ridiculous but I am a firm believer in putting into writing what I would like to manifest in my life.
Stress is something that can greatly affect your body and mind. My body has been holding onto weight. My sex drive has been low. I’m not sleeping well because my mind won’t stop racing. I’m feeling overwhelmed, completely lackluster, depressed, unmotivated and super lazy. I have to be honest, I did not stick to my goals last week… Pretty much everyday I just wanted to curl up in a ball and cry. And I couldn’t pep talk myself out of it no matter how hard I tried. I can either choose to continue with this unhealthy thought process or I can be disciplined, motivate myself, reframe my thinking and follow through with my intention. I am choosing to leave last week behind me and continue striving forward.
Here are those 10 tips to help you manage your stress:
- Wake up before 8am and first thing in the morning either meditate, listen to an inspirational video on YouTube, or lay there and think about everything you are grateful for. Do this for at least ten minutes. I just subscribed to Be Inspired on YouTube and listen to a motivational video before I get out of bed every morning. Check out a video through this link — Morning Motivation
- Before you get out of bed set your intention for the day. Whatever you want/need to accomplish for the day, tell yourself what it is and set the intention. Then tell yourself that today is the first day of the rest of your life and make it your mission to make today a great day.
- Eat quality food that is healthy. No sugar or processed food. Organic fruits and veggies. Lean meats. Healthy fats. Limit grain and dairy consumption. This needs to be how you eat at least 80% of the time. Allow yourself to eat your guilty pleasure food two meals (not days) a week.
- Do some form of exercise for at least 30 minutes. Just force yourself to do it. You will feel better after I promise.
- Spend at least 30 minutes outside without any electronic device. Simply be outside and listen to the sounds, breathe in the fresh air, take your shoes off and notice all the beauty around you. Get tight with Mother Nature.
- If something triggers your stress (like someone cutting you off in traffic) tell yourself that it’s not that serious, take 5 deep breaths and then move on. You do not have room in your life for any added stressors so you have to let the small stuff go.
- Do not numb away your stress by drinking alcohol, doing drugs, binge watching tv, or scrolling social media. Instead do something that you love and that can benefit you in some way. Read a good book, write, cook, or dance. My favorite thing to do is listen to music and dance like nobody’s watching. Do something that distracts you from your stress in a healthy way.
- Put your phone away in the evening and be present with your loved ones. If you live alone fantastic, learn to love being with yourself or go spend time with a friend.
- Do not let yourself stress about anything that you cannot control. This is a complete waste of energy.
- Go to bed by 11pm.
So here we go. Today is Tuesday. I have already started the week off strong by following the ten steps listed above. I am going to think about how rich I am and express my gratitude for all that I have. Every time I catch myself in damaging stress thoughts I will stop and focus on the present moment. I will listen to music and cook healthy food because that’s my favorite way to “zen out.” And I will to set myself up for success first thing in the morning because that’s what sets the tone for the rest of the day.
I am going to follow this list all week and let you know how it goes. If you have any other great tips to help manage stress let us know in the comments!
As always thank you for reading and I will catch up with you next week!
In love and wellness,